Parenting Think Tank

Parenting is a gift and joy that many enjoy. Yet there are moments and seasons where it can be filled with overwhelming feelings, anxiety and frustration. Parents can easily feel alone and isolated in their struggles.

The pandemic has been bitter sweet for many who appreciated more time with their children but felt the pressure of being the ones to meet so many more demands.

Parenting is a beautiful natural calling – we want to embrace it and feel fulfilled. To facilitate this, let’s openly discuss, encourage, support and share ideas with one another. During this Think Tank we will explore what we can constructively do when we feel overwhelmed, discouraged or inadequate in our parenting.

Date: Tuesday 16 March 2021

Time: 19.30 – 21.00 SAST/ 17.30 -19.00 GMT/ 18.30 – 20.00 CEST/12.30 – 14.00 EST

Cost: R150/$10/€10/£10

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On 16 February at the dialogue at Martin’s house, we had a diverse group of participants with the majority being men. After listening to and engaging with a talk about the Gospel and Blackness, the topic chosen was an “Appropriate sense of my own identity within my culture”.

During the dialogue it was apparent that our primary identifyer seems to be gender. It emerged that there is a lot of confusion around gender roles, dealing with stereotypes, how to adapt our roles so that it works within a partnership and our economic setting, how to still be accepted within our larger culture and not be othered as we experiment with our roles.

There were so many profound statements made – perhaps you will identify with one of the following …

  • With the changes in technology and male-female roles there have been seismic shifts in our identity. We are trying to figure these things out. 50 years ago the idea of a man staying at home with the kids was not accepted in any culture. Now we have to adapt, but there is a lot of fear of the unknown. Why should I let go of what I know even if it is bad? I don’t think we should be pulling each other down but empower women upwards. We do not want to perpetuate the system of alternating the person that is on top, but we want to create a new system.
  • I am beyond frustrated – they bunched us up here together, the angry black girls, and that is what happens in the world. Just put them there – I feel othered.
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Who owns the land?

On Saturday 26 January, the topic chosen for our Diversity Dialogue was “Who owns the land?”

The dialogue began on an intellectual level with much reference to facts and articles written about the land issue. It became apparent that the facts were interpreted differently according to the framework people were coming from. People tend to expose themselves to the information that confirms their bias. As we continued, the underlying optimism or pessimism of people became apparent, with the majority sounding more pessimistic.

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