Endings and Beginnings

a burning candle and a journal for self reflectionAs we approach the end of the year, we would like to close off well.  This poetry dialogue encourages self-reflection and explores our feelings around endings and beginnings. In an ideal world, all endings and beginnings are good, but in the real world, we know life is complex. When we suppress our feelings they can go underground. They can affect us subconsciously and internalize stress into our bodies. They could result in inter-personal explosions that seem to come out of nowhere. However, feelings do not need to be buried. The end of the year is an opportunity for reconnecting with ourselves and others, for closure, so that we can start with a clean slate in 2023.

This is one of the sessions in our new offering “Pick ‘n Mix stress management”. More details here. We would like to put the power back into your hands and give you agency to tailor-make a stress management package that really works for you. Every Wednesday in October from 19:30 – 20:45 we will be facilitating a different topic online. You decide what you  need and when and whether you would like another session. You give yourself time to apply your learnings, implement change and control the amount of new information you are exposed to. Every month our offering will change slightly. Do check in regularly to see what’s been adjusted. We may also try out a different day of the week.

Email contact@tt-tt.co.za to book your place by 18:00 on 29 November.

Can we respond, rather than react?

In the midst of a very challenging time in our country, there is a turmoil of emotions swirling round in each of us – disbelief, horror, sorrow, sadness, anger, growing anxiety, for some, fear. Things feel very much beyond our own control – in fact completely out of control in some places. The stress hormone cortisol builds up in our bodies, activates our sympathetic nervous system and we are ready to fight in word and deed, or fly as fast as we can. Every fibre of our bodies is on high alert. In the last few days, many lives have probably been saved by the body’s design to readily react to circumstances.

Our ability to react to what is going on around us is rooted in what is going on within our own bodies, minds and hearts. It is linked to the levels of our own hormones, to our own emotions, to meeting our own needs.

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Stop the bus – who and where am I?

We tend to follow the expected trajectory of our lives, without too much thought. We go to school, train for a job, develop our careers, work most days, date, find a life partner (or not), decide to have kids (or not)…and then one day, we look back on our lives and perhaps realise we are not where we thought we would be. Perhaps we are not even who we thought we would be.

This interactive talk will give us the opportunity to pause and reflect about who we have become, where we are and whether we are on the right bus…

Join Khanyi and Vera as they share some of their experiences with changing direction (or getting on a different bus).

Book your place with vera@tt-tt.co.za to get the zoom call details.

Saving time

The words “saving time” roll off the tongue so easily, and yet it is such a loaded expression.

The word “saving” indicates value that we (personally or as a society) have assigned to something. We only save things that are precious to us – money, jewellery, treats, things of beauty, the best of something.

Usually the verb “save” is used with one of two pronouns. We save “for” or we save “from”.

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Poverty in South Africa

At our Diversity Dialogue on 5 May, the topic chosen by the participants was Poverty in South Africa. The theme of conflicting values came up throughout the dialogue. We realised there is a conflict between the values we aspire to generally for our society and what we are aiming to achieve ourselves, e.g. we want poverty alleviated as long as we don’t have to sacrifice something ourselves, as women we want leadership positions for ourselves but we don’t necessarily want women in authority over us, we want to encourage black people to value themselves but we prefer white teachers or schools for our children, we say we value menial labour as much as university careers but we are not willing to pay the salary that reflects that value.



How do we live with this inner conflict?

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